LIVE WELL PODCAST | Ep #47 - How to use the “Be - Do - Have” model to get what you want out of life with Sarah Kolman
Do you ever feel stuck? Focusing on what you want to HAVE in life and what you have to DO to get there?
Today on The Live Well Podcast I’m speaking with the amazing Sarah Kolman about feeling stuck and the importance of mindset in our healing journey. We’re going to explore not just what we do to become healthy, but who we are as that person doing the tasks as we explore the BE > DO > HAVE model of creating change.
Here’s an example from Sarah of a conversation that may feel familiar to you:
“I want to have a thin, slim body and what I’ll do to get there is restrict carbs and exercise 7 days a week so that I will be attractive and lovable.”
This approach to having the life we want is called the HAVE > DO > BE model. This model creates the result that we are always chasing our tails because when we focus on what we’re going to have first and foremost and we never arrive at the place where we’re thin or beautiful enough to actually feel lovable, worthy, attractive etc.
It’s safe to say that we have all been there. At some point or another, we’ve all had an idea about the missing piece—losing 20 pounds, finding the right partner, getting a new job —that will finally make us happy, attractive, lovable, worthy, or enough. We make ourselves crazy chasing that missing piece, or feeling unsatisfied when we do get it. This trap feels comfortable to us because we are so bought into (and just about everything in society reinforces) the notion of our own unworthiness. The “thing” will never be what gives us what we yearn for deep inside.
Fortunately, it’s completely within our power to change the channel. When we focus on our ability to shift our ways of being, we tap into our power to create the results we want. This is one of the most powerful episodes I've recorded to date and I HIGHLY recommend tuning in.
Sarah Kolman a Registered Nurse, Integrative Nutrition Health Coach, and Contemplative Psychotherapist. Sarah’s unique one-on-one health coaching practice blends her nursing and psychotherapy experience with holistic and nutrition-based health concepts. A passionate student in the field of psychoneuroimmunology, she helps her clients heal by focusing on the brain-body connection and its profound impact on wellness.
With Sarah’s support and guidance, clients learn to manage stubborn symptoms that have persisted through countless traditional treatments. She is also the author of the book Full Plate: Nourishing Your Family’s Whole Health in a Busy World.
I’m excited to have Sarah on the podcast to delve deep into the concept of reframing our mindset and practicing adjusting our lens so we perceive life and relationships in a more positive and fulfilling way.
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4:28 Sarah explains what “ways of being” means in contrast to tasks of “doing”.
9:40 How you can still feel calm, free and at ease while still doing the same tasks you normally would (without feeling stress!)
11:26 I describe a typical Monday schedule and how I would normally approach my full day of “doing.”
14:08 Together we reframe my schedule to inspire calm, presence and peace for my day.
16:48 How stepping back actually takes the pressure and stress off my day.
20:47 Sarah takes us through a practical Be - Do - Have excercise.
30:27 How living with flow, ease and grace requires practice and rewiring our limiting beliefs.
32:40 How the practice of looking at your thoughts and what you make them mean, is completely in your power and how to choose another story that works for you!
37:25 Sarah suggests a an easy question to ask ourselves so we can begin using the Be - Do - Have concept.
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